My husband, Erik C. Paulsen has been having an affair with a 21 year old sloppy mess. She is closer to my daughters age than his… He was once my best friend nbut turned to drugs and alcohol and something new and fresh. He turned on his children and his wife who loved him. His choices have caused irreparable damage and doesnt seem to care anymore. It is very sad. We have young children together and refuses to file for divorce because he doesnt want to pay alimony. Hes been the breadwinner for 10 years. She works at a restaurant here called Rhombus Guys and is going to college. This makes me angry and sad.